From Surviving to Thriving

Divorce and Resilience Coaching

For the before, during, and after

// Hi! I’m Lisa // Certified Divorce Coach…Mama… Survivor!

My lens: Trauma-aware, Somatics teacher, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Post-traumatic growth & Resilience expert.

I guide you in breaking the chains of generational trauma by blending nervous system regulation with the power of positive psychology.

I also help with the practical and necessary parts of a divorce process.

My mission is to support, educate, and empower you every step of the way.

I am who I wish I’d had by my side during my own divorce and subsequent custody cases.

I know what it takes to pick yourself up through a breakup and divorce, and I have successfully rewired my system to be resilient af.

We can all learn to feel at home in our body, minds and life.

I believe in us, and the power of Connection, Trust and The Tools.

What is the story that led you here...?

  • Do I stay or go?

    Feeling stuck? Torn between staying or leaving? Let’s clear out the mental clutter and figure it out. Whether it takes one session or three months, we’ll get there, and you’ll make an empowered, integrated choice.

  • I’m staying, now what?

    I may be a divorce coach but I have supported the recovery of relationships for 20+ years. I will guide you through powerful techniques that will help you with your new chapter and create a clear boundary with the past.

  • I’m in the process of leaving, and I need help

    Leaving is overwhelming. The practical stuff. The emotional turmoil. It’s a lot. Seriously, it’s a lot.

    We need to manage your stress levels because high stress can mess with your brain’s ability to make sound decisions and regulate emotions. (More about that here.)

    Dialing down your stress is crucial. I’ve got the tools and techniques I wish I’d had all those years ago, and I’m here to guide you through them. Together, we’ll stay grounded and tackle the practical issues too.

  • It’s done and I’m still struggling

    Maybe you thought you were done with the hard bit, but you’re feeling stuck and unable to move on.

    Perhaps you want to find out what is blocking you from starting a new relationship or you are facing more serious issues such as post-separation abuse and/or child custody issues.

    You may be experiencing anything from chronic CPTSD to a fear of starting again.

    Whatever the severity, my method can help you move from this chapter to a lasting post-traumatic growth phase, developing a flexible nervous system for the rest of your life,

  • "I had been divorced for 3 years when I met Lisa and we worked through her program. I didn't see just how much my confidence, trust and judgement had been destroyed in my marriage. I was carrying so much anger and fear. Lisa helped me get free and move on with my life. I'm immensely grateful".

    Rachel - 58

  • "Having Lisa's support is like having a friend who is also an expert in the subject matter - the best of both worlds. She gave me expert advice on the paperwork and also showed me how to build my emotional strength. I'm now ready to embrace my next chapter".

    Samantha - 57

  • “My ex was dragging me through court, I was drowning in legal fees and felt totally beaten down. Working with Lisa has saved me months of back and forth and tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees. I just wish I'd started coaching earlier".

    Emma - 38

  • "Lisa guided me through the legal mess, while also being a pillar of emotional support. Now, I have a sense of purpose and clarity. Anyone facing the tumult of divorce would be fortunate to have Lisa by their side".

    Christina - 35

  • "My sessions with Lisa changed everything. With her strategic guidance, I avoided a lot of unnecessary legal fees, and we found a smoother, child-focused approach. Lisa's coaching prioritized our children’s well-being, something I will always be grateful for".

    Samantha - 42

  • "I really thought my life was over when my ex husband asked for a separation. Lisa took me through her program and now I have a new career, I'm financially empowered and I know what I'm looking for in my next relationship whenever that will be".

    Linda - 46

  • Every situation is unique, but after years of dealing with this stuff, I’ve seen some patterns. You may be feeling any / some of the following:

    Scared shitless about your future and your kids

    Freaking out about finances and what’s next for your life

    Repeating the same patterns of attraction to abusive partners

    Struggling to process and move on from childhood abuse.

    Paralyzed and unable to make those high-stakes decisions

    Clueless about how to navigate the system

    Worried that your ex is going to make your life a legal and financial hell

    Oh, and let’s not forget feeling heartbroken, confused, lost, or downright depressed. Yeah, I’ve got a ton of tools to help you with that.

    I’m here to guide you with the compassion and understanding you need. I also have a bunch of free tools if you are struggling - email me, sharing a paragraph about your story and what kind of help you are looking for and I will send you some things that might help.

    All my packages are tailored to your needs. Whether you need a one-off session or want to go all-in with a monthly retainer, I’ve got you covered. Rates available upon request.

  • Whether you are in the middle of a custody case, are in personal crisis or are knee deep in the all consuming separation and divorce process, I have your back.

    As a full access client we will work together for a minimum of 3 - 6 months to cover all aspects of your process.

    Weekly 1 - 2 hour calls that can be scheduled last minute and when you need me. Within reason, I will schedule with you as soon as I am free.

    Email and text support 7 days a week.

    We will save you money, time, stress and heartache while strengthening your nervous system, creating a new future and helping you thrive the most possible!

    All packages are bespoke. One off sessions and my monthly retainer rates are available upon request.

  • I work with couples to:

    • Agree upon a separation/parenting plan and decide on the logistics of their separation without the need for a legal team. All documents can be formalized with a lawyer if necessary.

    • Liaise with the legal team (if there is one) to ensure a fair and trauma-informed agreement without going to court

    • Facilitate a beautiful and personal closing process for the relationship they once had. Whatever happens and whatever the future holds, the relationship that existed is complete. This leaves space for a new one to emerge in a new form. I've had couples reunite after this process, or happily go on to co-parent / be friends!

  • A lot of monthly packages are bespoke and built around your personal needs. If my fees trigger fear or despair, email me and we can talk. I do offer group coaching which is very affordable, and coming soon is my Divorce Recovery 3.0 course - email me to discuss and for more details. You don't have to do this alone.

    LOW CONFLICT DIVORCE - $1600

    • As a non SOS situation, it can be a lot of the above, calls are limited to 5 hours per month and with unlimited email support we get a lot done outside of those calls. The range of topics are the same but there is no text support.

    • We are usually able to get to a positive conclusion within 2-3 months, saving you thousands in legal fees. 

    IMMERSIVE 1-2-1 - $2000 (Is bespoke but can include any of the following)

    • As SOS but we have regular scheduled calls limited to 8 hours a month and we text and email regularly. This is the most popular option because it’s usually a combination of anything from the following list: 

    • Sometimes training you to litigate in person ie - saving money on legal fees

    • Liaising with your legal team and helping you save money with strategies to keep emails and contact as brief as possible, answering questions that you may have taken to your legal team unnecessarily, collaborating with the legal team on strategy and more. 

    • Daily support with how to communicate with your soon to be ex or ex, supporting the children and often writing emails and texts for you to your ex to ensure peace is upheld, as much as possible. 

    • Daily emotional support, which is why I am on retainer - I’m there to help rewire your nervous system, be a safe space, support you when friends and family cannot, and help you regulate. 

    • Weekly inner work that you can do outside of the sessions, applicable to your situation, to help you move through the process as regulated as possible. 

    • There’s so much more, based on your personal needs. 

    FULL ACCESS CLIENT / COUPLES $3000 - $5000 monthly depending on needs and intensity.

    I’m your ally and by your side for the whole process

    • You can text me anytime, 6 days a week, and I will respond within 6 hours unless I let you know I’m offline for a while for something personal.

    • We do regular ad hoc (when needed) and scheduled calls with no time limits. This is ideal for those in custody litigation with a difficult person, or if you are in a high net worth divorce with multiple cases going at once for assets. I consider myself ‘on call’ during this process. 

  • Look out for my next Online Community Gathering and join my mailing list at the bottom of the page to get priority access.

    In the meantime, go click on The Resilient Heart and do the tools. They are easy. They help.

The Modalities I Use

  • Accredited Break-Up and Divorce Coaching

    You receive the emotional and practical tools necessary to navigate the complexities of relationship dissolution. And it IS complex! This specialized coaching understands the emotional rollercoaster and practical challenges of breakups and divorce and we are strategic in our approach to manage it all.

    Benefits can be:

    Reduced anxiety, depression, and stress

    Enhanced emotional regulation

    Greater self-awareness and self-compassion

    Healing from chronic pain or tension

    Improved relationships and communication

    Empowerment and a sense of agency in life

    I am trained to develop strategy, create parenting plans, separation agreements, work with legal teams from all over the world and I have saved my clients well over $200 in legal fees in the past year alone.

  • Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

    Narcissistic Trauma / Abuse Recovery - CPD Accredited.

    We embody post-traumatic growth by addressing trauma at its root, within the nervous system. This helps usregulate emotions, release stored trauma, and rebuild self-worth and empowerment.

    Healing the Nervous System: We regulate the fight, flight, or freeze responses, to feel safe and grounded.

    Rebuilding Self-Worth: We reconnect with your inner strength and create a strong sense of identity beyond the narcissistic relationship.

    Empowering Emotional Regulation: I share a million tools to manage triggers and navigate intense emotions with greater ease. You use the ones that work for you.

    Transform Post-Traumatic Stress into Growth: Turn pain into resilience!

    Create Healthy Boundaries: Establish and maintain boundaries, protect your energy!

    Reclaiming Joy and Confidence: Move beyond survival to truly thrive in this one precious life!

  • Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching

    22+ years of Somatic Trauma Recovery practice and teaching, My focus is the connection between the body, mind, and emotions and on regulating the nervous system

    We can release trauma stored as tension or pain and increase body awareness to trust in ourselves, and uncover unconscious patterns that have been shaped by trauma. Where we get to? Emotional regulation and resilience!

    How It Works:

    Regulating the Nervous System: Trauma often leaves the nervous system stuck in a heightened (fight-or-flight) or suppressed (freeze) state.

    Releasing Stored Trauma: Through body-focused techniques like movement, somatic awareness, or gentle touch, clients can identify and release these physical manifestations of trauma.

    Building Resilience and Capacity: Somatic practices increase a person’s ability to tolerate and navigate challenging emotions and sensations, strengthening their overall resilience.

    Reconnecting with the Body: Trauma can create a disconnect between the body and mind, making it hard to feel grounded or present. We turn this around.

    Accessing Unconscious Patterns: Trauma often creates unconscious beliefs and behaviors that shape relationships and choices. We work with sensations and embodied memories and transform them.

    Creating Safety and Presence: This allows us to explore their experiences without fear of retraumatization.

  • Mediation

    Mediation is a means to transform conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and improved relationships, fostering empathy, creativity, and lasting resolutions.

    It’s a collaborative process where an impartial third party (ME) assists disputing individuals in resolving conflicts through open communication and negotiation.

    This approach emphasizes understanding each party's needs and interests to reach a mutually satisfactory agreement.

  • Brainspotting

    The best modality I know of to address deep-seated trauma beyond the story. We integrate parts work and meditation to reach a place of resolution, where previously triggering events no longer have charge. Brainspotting bypasses the thinking mind, diving into the subconscious to release what's stuck and create space for profound shifts.

    By identifying "brainspots"—eye positions that connect to the brain's processing centers—it allows unresolved trauma to surface in a safe, supportive place.

    It’s an intuitive, compassionate process designed to unlock resilience and gently guide you back to wholeness, helping you move beyond the weight of the past and into the fullness of your life. We need. that after divorce!

  • All The Other Things I Do

    tai chi / chi gung / shiatsu massage / thai yoga massage / somatic movement / vipassana meditation / yoga asana and philosophy / mantra / dynamic and movement meditations / ecstatic dance leader / sound healing and toning / dance therapy / tapping / freeform movement therapy / catharsis / neo-reichian bodywork / trauma release practices / non-dual teachings / death work / unitive life coaching / instinctive and personalized meditation / imago relationship therapy / deep somatic therapeutic practices / handel method life coaching / birth doula-ing / hypnotherapy / tea ceremonialist / pre and post natal yoga specialization and accrediting teachers through my teacher training / narcissistic abuse recovery / somatic leadership / somatic psychology / mediation / trauma informed coaching / IFS / parts work / matchmaking / break up and divorce coaching / positive psychology / brainspotting

How to begin

Thinking about divorce? Considering separation? Want your mojo back after a breakup? Struggling with your mental health before, during, or after the split? Or maybe you’re right in the thick of it all and need some solid guidance.

Whatever stage you’re at, let’s connect. I invite you to reach out for a complimentary unstuck session.

To schedule your session at no charge, just click or tap the button below and contact me to book a time that suits you. I look forward to chatting and strategizing with you.

Help with All The Things

Including and not limited to:

Mental Health and Self Care

Emotional regulation / Divorce and trauma recovery / The Moving On protocol / Career and Business Coaching / Emotional Processing and Wellness / The Grief Cycle / Post-traumatic growth

Logistical Magic

Pre-divorce planning / Post-divorce planning / Separation agreements / Parenting plans / Blending families / Custody issues

Strategy and Best Practices

Mediation Coaching / Prepping for Lawyers and Court / The Art of Communication / Divorcing a high-conflict individual  / Post-Separation Legal Abuse / Custody cases

All my coaching packages are bespoke. One-off sessions and my monthly retainer rates are available. Let’s chat first and see what works for you.

“Divorce is never easy. Mine could have been much, much worse - for me, for my ex, and for my kids - and Lisa greatly helped keep it on a smooth track that has allowed all of us to arrive faster to a happier, healthier post-divorce life. There are a lot of bad places to get divorce advice (such as lawyers). Investing in an alternate perspective may be the best investment you ever make for you and your family’s well-being, and may save you a ton of money along the way”. - Stephanie, 40