For the before, during and after
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Paperwork, strategy, lawyers, oh my!
It’s not easy, but dealing with paperwork, strategy, and lawyers is part of the whole divorce and custody thing.
For some, this is the straightforward part. The practical, non-heart-wrenching stuff. For others, it feels impossible to handle.
I’m here to make it simple. I want to save you money and help you get the best possible outcome for your future.
How you advocate for yourself is crucial. It can define your custody outcome, financial situation, and overall emotional and psychological well-being.
Remember, it’s all figureoutable.
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Design your life and create an even better future
Realizing that you can come out of this stronger, more resilient, confident, and alive is a game changer.
What fuels my purpose is showing you the tools to build the life you want. Learn to dream big and take action to turn those dreams into reality.
My Trauma Recovery Method combines tools I’ve developed and successfully used with hundreds of clients to transform their lives. Like everything in life, we get what we put in.
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Still, we rise!
Imagine being on the other side of this Divorce, custody case or quite simply, the heartache, the feeling of loss and the grief.
I’m not saying the grief goes away.
But imagine; The relief, the freedom, the feeling of having rebuilt your life on your terms.
Is that sometimes scary to think about? Yes.
Is that a reason not to do it?! Nooo!
I would offer that it’s more than worth it, it will save your life and that of your children (if you have them).
Getting through the WTF-ness
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Do I stay or go?
Feeling stuck? Torn between staying or leaving? Let’s clear out the mental clutter and figure it out. Whether it takes one session or three months, we’ll get there, and you’ll make an empowered, integrated choice.
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I’m staying, now what?
I may be a divorce coach but I have supported the recovery of relationships for 20+ years. I will guide you through powerful techniques that will help you with your new chapter and create a clear boundary with the past.
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I’m in the process of leaving, and I need help
Leaving is overwhelming. The practical stuff. The emotional turmoil. It’s a lot. Seriously, it’s a lot.
We need to manage your stress levels because high stress can mess with your brain’s ability to make sound decisions and regulate emotions. (More about that here.)
Dialing down your stress is crucial. I’ve got the tools and techniques I wish I’d had all those years ago, and I’m here to guide you through them. Together, we’ll stay grounded and tackle the practical issues too.
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It’s done and I’m still struggling
Maybe you thought you were done with the hard bit, but you’re feeling stuck and unable to move on.
Perhaps you want to find out what is blocking you from starting a new relationship or you are facing more serious issues such as post-separation abuse and/or child custody issues.
You may be experiencing anything from chronic CPTSD to a fear of starting again.
Whatever the severity, my method can help you.
“Coaching with Lisa helped me see my limiting beliefs, attachment wounds and bad theories around relationships that were affecting my choices and my self-worth.
I'm so much more self-aware and I'm now closer to the person I want to be to attract a really secure and healthy partner”. Bea, 35
1:1 Coaching
You don’t have to be going through a Divorce for us to work together.
I have clients who are reconciling with each other and doing the work it takes individually to get there. I also have clients who were divorced 10 years ago and feel stuck. There are also times when I’m sitting at my desk, surrounded by legal documents, writing a position statement for a client who is representing themselves in court.
Maybe you want to:
Address the Trauma that lives in your bones and find a way to move forward.
Turn your emotional chaos into a powerful force for good.
Ditch the people-pleasing and end codependency. Or at least get into recovery!
Leap into a new phase of life, making bold moves in your career, relationships, lifestyle, and finances.
Speed up the divorce and custody process without losing your sanity or your savings.
Parent with heart and show your kids what self-love looks like.
This isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. My method is highly individualized, aimed at filling your toolbox with exactly what you need. Here’s what we might work on:
The Tools. These are highly effective, time-tested practices and insight tools. You just have to DO them!
Somatic & trauma-informed abuse recovery
Building a resilient nervous system
Setting and maintaining boundaries
Conducting a complete inventory of your life, identifying blocks, and setting future goals
Meet and bring awareness to all your parts (IFS informed) and bring shadows into the light
Find out how we would work together and book a free call with me. Together, we rise.
“Thank you for being my glimmer of hope and life raft in the darkness of my custody case” - Amanda, 49
How to begin
Thinking about divorce? Considering separation? Want your mojo back after a breakup? Struggling with your mental health before, during, or after the split? Or maybe you’re right in the thick of it all and need some solid guidance.
Whatever stage you’re at, let’s connect. I invite you to reach out for a complimentary unstuck session.
To schedule your session at no charge, just click or tap the button below and book a time that suits you. I look forward to chatting and strategizing with you.
The Modalities I Use
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Accredited Break-Up and Divorce Coaching
You receive the emotional and practical tools necessary to navigate the complexities of relationship dissolution. And it IS complex! This specialized coaching understands the emotional rollercoaster and practical challenges of breakups and divorce and we are strategic in our approach to manage it all.
Benefits can be:
Reduced anxiety, depression, and stress
Enhanced emotional regulation
Greater self-awareness and self-compassion
Healing from chronic pain or tension
Improved relationships and communication
Empowerment and a sense of agency in life
I am trained to develop strategy, create parenting plans, separation agreements, work with legal teams from all over the world and I have saved my clients well over $200 in legal fees in the past year alone.
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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Narcissistic Trauma / Abuse Recovery - CPD Accredited.
We embody post-traumatic growth by addressing trauma at its root, within the nervous system. This helps usregulate emotions, release stored trauma, and rebuild self-worth and empowerment.
Healing the Nervous System: We regulate the fight, flight, or freeze responses, to feel safe and grounded.
Rebuilding Self-Worth: We reconnect with your inner strength and create a strong sense of identity beyond the narcissistic relationship.
Empowering Emotional Regulation: I share a million tools to manage triggers and navigate intense emotions with greater ease. You use the ones that work for you.
Transform Post-Traumatic Stress into Growth: Turn pain into resilience!
Create Healthy Boundaries: Establish and maintain boundaries, protect your energy!
Reclaiming Joy and Confidence: Move beyond survival to truly thrive in this one precious life!
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Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching
22+ years of Somatic Trauma Recovery practice and teaching, My focus is the connection between the body, mind, and emotions and on regulating the nervous system
We can release trauma stored as tension or pain and increase body awareness to trust in ourselves, and uncover unconscious patterns that have been shaped by trauma. Where we get to? Emotional regulation and resilience!
How It Works:
Regulating the Nervous System
Trauma often leaves the nervous system stuck in a heightened (fight-or-flight) or suppressed (freeze) state.
Releasing Stored Trauma
Through body-focused techniques like movement, somatic awareness, or gentle touch, clients can identify and release these physical manifestations of trauma.
Building Resilience and Capacity
Somatic practices increase a person’s ability to tolerate and navigate challenging emotions and sensations, strengthening their overall resilience.
Reconnecting with the Body
Trauma can create a disconnect between the body and mind, making it hard to feel grounded or present. We turn this around.
Accessing Unconscious Patterns
Trauma often creates unconscious beliefs and behaviors that shape relationships and choices. We work with sensations and embodied memories and transform them.
Creating Safety and Presence
This allows us to explore their experiences without fear of retraumatization.
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Brainspotting
The best modality I know of to address deep-seated trauma beyond the story. We integrate parts work and meditation to reach a place of resolution, where previously triggering events no longer have charge. Brainspotting bypasses the thinking mind, diving into the subconscious to release what's stuck and create space for profound shifts.
By identifying "brainspots"—eye positions that connect to the brain's processing centers—it allows unresolved trauma to surface in a safe, supportive place.
It’s an intuitive, compassionate process designed to unlock resilience and gently guide you back to wholeness, helping you move beyond the weight of the past and into the fullness of your life. We need. that after divorce!
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Mediation
Mediation is a means to transform conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and improved relationships, fostering empathy, creativity, and lasting resolutions.
It’s a collaborative process where an impartial third party (ME) assists disputing individuals in resolving conflicts through open communication and negotiation.
This approach emphasizes understanding each party's needs and interests to reach a mutually satisfactory agreement.
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All The Other Things I Do For Fun And For Healing Stuff
tai chi / chi gung / shiatsu massage / thai yoga massage / somatic movement / vipassana meditation / yoga asana and philosophy / mantra / dynamic and movement meditations / ecstatic dance leader / sound healing and toning / dance therapy / tapping / freeform movement therapy / catharsis / neo-reichian bodywork / trauma release practices / non-dual teachings / death work / unitive life coaching / instinctive and personalized meditation / imago relationship therapy / deep somatic therapeutic practices / handel method life coaching / birth doula-ing / hypnotherapy / tea ceremonialist / pre and post natal yoga specialization and accrediting teachers through my teacher training / narcissistic abuse recovery / somatic leadership / somatic psychology / mediation / trauma informed coaching / IFS / parts work / matchmaking / break up and divorce coaching / positive psychology / brainspotting
"You've lost nothing except what couldn't be sustained. You're letting go of an imagined future. What's real is the future you're about to craft. " Lisa - 46 (me)
SOS
Divorce can bring up some deep challenges and we all need support to get through it.
Maybe you need around-the-clock support when the drama is at its peak, or you are dealing with a difficult ex, have painful and ongoing custody issues, court cases looming, are afraid of backsliding, are in a toxic text exchange and need to be pulled back or feel you are drowning in grief.
Hopefully, you have asked your friends for support and they are there for you - AND - when we are in such charged situations sometimes you need a coach who has specific experience in helping dial down the intensity.
I can help you craft an email that will save you time, money, and heartache. I can guide you through my methods for successfully purging your emotions in a way that doesn’t create more chaos but helps you let things go and move on. I can coach you before a court hearing so you are at your most empowered and clear.
There are a million ways we get triggered and upset during a separation. I have tried and tested ways to help you move through them.
