My Methodology

Traditional coaching often focuses on the practical, logistical, and emotional aspects of divorce.

Unitive Divorce Coaching goes deeper, looking at your well-being with a trauma-aware and neuroscientifically sound approach.

The "unitive" aspect means my coaching helps you find a sense of wholeness and self-integration during and after the divorce process.

The goal of Unitive Divorce Coaching is to support you in all areas of your life as you navigate the complexities of this transition. This approach ideally leads to growth, and an embodied sense of peace, with some trauma hangovers that you can weather and move on from quickly - because as I’ve mentioned before, trauma doesn’t just disappear but it can have it’s drivers licence revoked!

Here’s what we focus on:

  • Nervous System Regulation: Through written work, somatic exercises, short and effective movements with breath, and specific actions, we aim to bring you to a place of regulation.

  • Emotional Responses: Understand and manage your emotional reactions. Knowing how our brains function under pressure is a game-changer.

  • Life Goals: Set realistic goals for your future, covering career, finances, home life, parenting, and more.

  • Logistical and Legal Aspects: Navigate the complexities of divorce with clarity and purpose.

  • Physical Well-being: Ensure your ongoing physical health through a trauma and mindfulness lens.

  • Personal Growth: Explore spiritual or personal growth as you redefine your life post-divorce.

You don’t need any prior experience to benefit from these practices, but they are essential for making healthy life decisions when it matters most.

“I did not expect my life to be better after Divorce. To be honest, I thought my life was over but this coaching Lisa offers has given me a life post-divorce I never thought was possible. My kids are happier, and I'm happier. I have a daily yoga and meditation practice now too thanks to her expert guidance”. - Kirsty, 49

It’s possible that a breakup or divorce can be one of the most freeing and revitalizing experiences of your life

It’s also a traumatic life event…and we all need support to get through it.

Maybe you need around-the-clock help when the drama peaks, or you're dealing with a difficult ex, painful and ongoing custody issues, looming court cases, fear of backsliding, toxic text exchanges, or drowning in grief.

Hopefully, you’ve got friends backing you up. But in these high-stakes situations, sometimes you need a coach with the experience to dial down the intensity.

I can help you craft emails that save time, money, and heartache. I’ll guide you through methods to purge your emotions without creating more chaos, helping you let go and move on. I can coach you before a court hearing so you’re empowered and clear-headed.

There are a million ways we get triggered and upset during a separation. I’ve got tried and tested ways to help you navigate through them.

How do we get there?!

  • We lay the foundations for your long-term well-being, helping you recover, take inventory, and face what needs to be processed, allowing you to move on and thrive whether single or in a new relationship. We consciously process grief without denying or bypassing any difficult stuff.

  • Learn to feel feelings without drowning in them - Emotional regulation FTW! We can dial down the intensity. The only way out is very definitely through (and yes, it sucks until it doesn’t).

  • We work through all the practical elements of a breakup or divorce when we are regulated so we can make the best decisions regarding our children / joint finances and agreements.

  • We make practical plans for the future in the 11 Areas of Life:

    • Health and Body

    • Spirituality and relationship with self

    • Money

    • Career and Work

    • Family Relationships

    • Creativity, Passion and Adventure

    • Romance and Sex

    • Home Life

    • Time

    • Relating with others (non-romantic)

    • Vices and Character Traits

  • You move into the life you have envisioned, (mostly) free from the BS that has held you back in the past.

  • "My sessions with Lisa changed everything. With her strategic guidance, I avoided a lot of unnecessary legal fees, and we found a smoother, child-focused approach. Lisa's coaching prioritized our children’s well-being, something I will always be grateful for".

    Samantha - 42

  • "Lisa guided me through the legal mess, while also being a pillar of emotional support. Now, I have a sense of purpose and clarity. Anyone facing the tumult of divorce would be fortunate to have Lisa by their side".

    Christina - 35

  • "Having Lisa's support is like having a friend who is also an expert in the subject matter - the best of both worlds. She gave me expert advice on the paperwork and also showed me how to build my emotional strength. I'm now ready to embrace my next chapter".

    Samantha - 57

  • “My ex was dragging me through court, I was drowning in legal fees and felt totally beaten down. Working with Lisa has saved me months of back and forth and tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees. I just wish I'd started coaching earlier".

    Emma - 38

  • "I really thought my life was over when my ex husband asked for a separation. Lisa took me through her program and now I have a new career, I'm financially empowered and I know what I'm looking for in my next relationship whenever that will be".

    Linda - 46

  • "I had been divorced for 3 years when I met Lisa and we worked through her program. I didn't see just how much my confidence, trust and judgement had been destroyed in my marriage. I was carrying so much anger and fear. Lisa helped me get free and move on with my life. I'm immensely grateful".

    Rachel - 58

“One of my main goals is to help end the generational cycle of pain & suffering caused when divorces go wrong, so that if children are involved, they, and then their children, and their children can experience challenging life events but not be defined by them.” Lisa - 46 (me!)